I’m not really good in dealing with sadness or whatever downturn of events it may be. I’m more likely to run off and get something to distract me to avoid that feeling of depression. I’m not the type who’d grieve openly, I have my own moments which I want to keep personal, insert here my “crayola” moments soon as the lights are off and I’m assured that ze husband is already on his deep sleep. Bottom line is I’m not someone who’d go over the tip and afflict more pain; I’d always play it safe and dwell on the lighter side. It’s me because I’ve always been this ever since a kid, hiding away all the worries and act as if “hey, I’m okay”.
At this point when everyone expects me to slow down, I just can’t. I felt I needed more work to pour in and more issues to come around to keep me occupied, there at least I have a good excuse to avoid talking to people about Tatay’s death. I need time for myself, I need healing and most of the time I need to do it alone. Though, at times I’d wish someone would give me a pat on the back and ask how it’s going.
Anyhow, I’m thankful that this blogging activity has fueled me once again, I think it’s the best thing I can do to let go of things running in my head, to let go of those words unspoken at the moment. My sorry if most of the coming post would be like this –emotionally late uploads.
Happy happy birthday ‘Nay, nothing but good health and a steady mind and more days, months and years so you’ll get to blow a candle year after the other.
Then there was Nanay’s birthday last May which we really didn’t plan to celebrate big. But ze cousin was so influential and supportive of the idea, which at first was just a joke to annoy some people (not really “some people” because they are still part of the maternal circle). Ze cousins from the land of gold and dreams and fantasies according to Google even sent birthday money to buy food. So, two days before Nanay’s birthday we ordered food to look as if a birthday surprise. Of course we don’t want to hassle her of cooking and preparing that’s why everything should come at hand and ready-to-eat. But I’ve managed to request dinuguan from her; I told her that I’m craving for it and bringing some back in Manila.
Nanay was surprised, though pretended that she’s not excited at all, something was bothering mother hen that time, I sensed. The birthday party was well-attended by the maternals, Nanay’s colleague from the barangay hall, and some neighboring friends that were Tatay’s closest.
Tatay at his happiest during Nanay’s birthday last May 30, 2015.
No one ever thought that his days were numbered then and that this was one of the last few celebrations at home of which Tatay we’ll be part of. 😦 Now, the thought of Christmas is upsetting me, I wonder how it’s gonna be –our very first Christmas without the patriarch, the one we referred to as the “Grinch” on most occasions because he became less excited of the holidays and hated our overly preparations and shopping. Tatay, if only I’m given the chance I’d choose you over the trimmings and excitement, I’d choose you a hundred times over anything else, I’d choose you no matter what.
Thank you for being my exclusive Santa Claus, thank you for the memories of my childhood. I’m forever grateful that you are my Tatay. ♥